Relationships are hard. Finding somebody you want to spend time with can be difficult enough, but once that happens, you’ve got to deal with the task of maintenance: keeping things fresh, finding time for each other, and generally just coming up ways to navigate the tricky ups and downs every partnership faces. If your relationship is in trouble and you want to stay together, you have to take action. Doing more of what works and less of what doesn’t is a great place to begin the process. Here are ten things that many couples who have endured difficult times and emerged stronger have done.
Tips To Make Efforts In A Relationship
1. Listen Each Other
It might sound obvious, but when you really allow yourself to listen—and ask questions about—what your partner says, it not only leads to better conversations, but also better communication.
2. Do more together.
That includes waking up and going to bed together, eating together, talking together. It will help you to get it together.
3. A picture is worth a thousand words.
Keeping your partner’s picture on your desk, wallet, or computer lets him or her know that you think of your love throughout the day. Doing this seemingly small thing is very reaffirming.
Having a partner you can trust creates a buffer between you and the difficulties of the world. When you have a mate you can rely on, it’s easier to take those risks that help you grow. Always be honest with each other about your feelings and needs, and remember that you can tell the truth without being harsh.
5. Do the new.
Doing new things together releases oxytocin in the brain, which is one of the chemicals that makes us feel all atwitter when a relationship is fresh.
6. Stop nagging.
Seriously, stop. Take a step back and figure out the big things about your partner that truly bother you, and approach them from a place of concern and support instead of nitpicking for sport. That’ll get you nowhere.
7. Travel together
Whether it’s a day trip to the lake or a month in Europe, traveling helps you build memories that you can treasure forever. It can also help you forget the painful past or at least put it in perspective.
8. Connect every day
Don’t go even a day without speaking to your mate. Find some way to touch base daily. The more, the better.
9. Proclaim your love
Not saying “I love you” is just not okay. The words don’t cost you a thing and withholding them speaks volumes.
10. Talk about everything
Keeping secrets or not sharing what’s in your head and heart will make your partner feel distant, and you won’t get the real benefit of a shared life. Speak up and express your feelings.
Every successful relationship needs the care and nurturing of two committed adults, giving to each other in a way that creates a mutually beneficial connection.
Giving your relationship what it needs to thrive is a truly loving gesture. Make the effort. You are both worth it.