Your first real relationship is one of the most beautiful chapters of your life. It was the first time you thought you were capable of being in love. Everything that happens for the time is special for several reasons. But with first relationships, it is extra special. The first date, the first time you held hands, the first hug, the first gift and the first break-up. First relationship can be beautiful, messy, confusing or absurd but it’s important to have one. There are plenty of things only a first relationship can teach you!
Things you Learn from your First Relationship
1. It teaches you to be selfless
Your first relationship lets you try your hand at altruism. Take this for example. You learn how to take a decision keeping in mind not only your but also another person’s thoughts, beliefs or whatever it is. Think about it. As a person, it changes you for the better and goes with you a long way later in life.
2. You learned to be less self-centred
You learned to ignore what you want and started thinking about what you want to do for your significant other. And this made you a more humble person than you already were. Unlike in movies, relationships in actual life are hard work. Falling in love may be effortless and spontaneous but sticking up sure is not. As princes turn into frogs, you learn to embrace life and hope for the best.
3. You learned that your self-respect has a say
Mostly in the first relationship, one individual is always compromising. Though it starts with trivial things but often leads to hampering one’s self-respect. For e.g. your partner may poke you in front of his/her friends, or comment loosely on your hair/dressing/thinking etc and you don’t really retaliate. First relationship teaches you to be vocal about what and how you feel.
4. You learned how to prioritize things
When you are with someone special for the first time, everything is about that person; your life in a way is centred on him/her. And while doing things for that person, be it cooking for him/her, dressing up the way he/she likes, going to their favorite spots or doing things that they like doing, we ignore our own priorities. They become our priority and we lose out on ours. First relationship teaches you to highlight your priorities as well.
5. You learned to get out of your comfort zone
If you are a girl, you may start liking rock music when you have your first boyfriend. And if you’re a guy, you might finally watch the ‘Notebook’! You might not even like the film, but that’s not the point. Point is, while you are free to have certain likes and dislikes, your partner can open up a whole new world in front of you. Maybe you had never watched football before your first relationship, but now you can name all the Real Madrid players.
6. You learned to handle your emotions wisely
Remember the first major fight in your first major relationship? The world came crashing down, didn’t it? You may not feel proud of it, but the silver lining is that these sort of emotional outbursts pave the way for a better control over your emotions in the future. You learn acceptance along the way, and you emerge stronger than you ever thought you were.
7. It teaches you to trust (or not to)
Trust is tricky, nevertheless no relationship can survive sans trust. While it’s essential to keep faith in humanity, your first relationship teaches you to guard your heart. Whereas adolescence generally wears its heart on its sleeve, you learn that trust is better served when earned – all thanks to your first relationship.
8. It teaches you that you can’t possess a person
Obviously, right? But how many of us went passed this? A relationship is maintained by two people and neither one has an upper hand. Your boyfriend or your girlfriend has every right to move on, provided you trample over his/her territory. Women flaunt an innate tendency to change men. And their first relationship usually teaches them that they can never change a person without that person’s consent. Life’s tough ladies!
9. It teaches you that you’ll be okay
It may be a cliche, all the same no one can refute the fact that time heals most wounds. Yes I know how you feel after you are broken up with your first boyfriend/girlfriend. But the wheel turns, remember? Your first relationship teaches you that things never remain the same and you are bound to be happy again (and then sad and again happy phew!). It’s a vicious circle, but at the end of your relationship, you finally come to learn that your relationship has never been the center of the universe.
10. You learned the importance of your friends and family
The world of dating can’t do without nasty break ups. Aren’t they just the worst? The first break up of your life stinks, but doesn’t it also reveal how important (and useful!) your friends and your family in your life are? You can watch ‘He’s just not that into you’ as many times as you want, yet you need the shoulders of your near and dear ones to cry on at the end of the day.
11. You learned that a breakup is not the end of the world
Your relationship made you tough when you sailed through it. It made you realize that heartbreaks are necessary too, and only stand to make you wiser.