Ups and downs are the parts of everyone’s life. One moment you’re happy, and then suddenly something horrible happens that affects your life negatively. But it’s the difficult times where we need a little more support and guidance. People suffer everyday; trying to cope up with their loss; some successfully, others in vain. More often than not, they are unable to deal with a tragedy; bearing horrible consequences such as depression, alienation and in the worst cases, suicide. Whether it is the demise of a loved one, the end of a romantic relationship, a financial loss, a long academic struggle or a completely different adversity, here are 10 ways to help you get through the tough times:
10 Ways to Help You Get through Tough Times
1. Accept the truth
George Orwell said, “Happiness can exist only in acceptance.” The faster you accept the truth, the easier it will be for you to withstand it. So you have failed in an exam. Or your pet has died. Learn to accept the fact instead of being in denial. Yes, something terrible has happened to you and you cannot change it. But you can definitely change your future by working hard and excelling in your weak subjects. Or you can accept the tragic death of your pet so that you can properly grieve and try to move on.
2. Change It Up
After you identify the key takeaways from your difficult time, you just need to make a change. If it’s a change you can implement immediately, do it. You don’t want be in the middle of a difficult situation longer than necessary. If it’s something that you can’t implement right now, take note of it so you can use it when the the situation calls for it.
But it’s pointless to learn from the difficult times if what you learned doesn’t directly affect your actions.
3. Acknowledge your feelings
When a misfortune strikes you, it is absolutely okay to have feelings about it. Do not suppress them. Let them all out. You might feel angry, sad, frustrated, heartbroken, or scared; feel the emotions deeply; try to understand what your heart longs for. John Duffy, PhD and a clinical psychologist said, “Avoiding your negative emotion may feel like an effective stopgap measure, but in fact it simply postpones, and perhaps escalates and exacerbates, a flood of negative emotion sometime in the future.”
4. Surround yourself with loved ones
Getting through tough times can get even more challenging, if you have to deal with it all alone. “Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.” Talking about your discomfort with your loved ones can have a colossal effect on your life. Be it friends or family; your loved ones will see the best in you when you’re at your worst, guide you through darkness and help you perceive the beauty of life. They will take care of you and help you recuperate from your loss faster than you could ever have, alone. Hence, it is very essential to have loving, caring people around you in such trying times. Always seek comfort in them when you can.
5. Know What You’re Grateful For
Gratitude means showing appreciation for all the good in your life, instead of focusing on the negative. Get clear about what it is that you’re grateful for.
Write out everything in your life you can think of that you’re grateful for having or experiencing. An even more powerful exercise is to think of the one person you’re most grateful for, and write a note explaining why you’re so grateful for having that person. Then give him or her a call and read that note to them.
6. Tackle your problems
Most of your difficulties can always be solved; try solving them. Your troubles can vary from financial to personal, and can still be solved with a calm and composed mind. Pen down your problems on a piece of paper, along with how you can solve them, and you will find numerous answers in multiple cases. Analyze your solutions, choose the ones tackle your issues most efficiently, and try implementing them as required. You can always switch to another solution if the previous one doesn’t work.
7. Realize You’ve Come a Long Way
Sometimes we get so focused on the road ahead, that we never look back to see what we’ve already traveled. Give yourself credit for everything you’ve already done.
You’ll give yourself a confidence boost when you realize that you’ve already made so much progress and the light at the end of the tunnel will get brighter.
8. Consult a therapist
When you think you’ve had a major blow that has left you with nothing but abject grief, do not hesitate to engage in therapy. Whether you have difficulties coping up with loss, or you’re fighting a long battle alone, therapists will help you get through the rough patch. They will support you and ask you questions through which you’ll start viewing life from a different perspective. Not only will they guide you through your vulnerabilities, they will also give you reasons to fight your battle and live life up to your full potential.
9. Be Kind to Yourself
You need to care for yourself to survive tough times. Take a walk through the park, lift some weights, read an amazing book. It doesn’t matter what you do, just do something that gets your mind and body engaged at a higher level than wallowing in self pity.
10. Always be grateful
Life can throw some major curve-balls at you, but it also gives you countless reasons to express gratitude. Learn to appreciate the smaller things that make your life worth living. Practicing gratitude every day brings forth a lot of positiveness within and around you, making it easier for you live life a little more, each passing day. You can appreciate the non-material things in life such as friendships, family, your physical abilities or the beauty of nature. As and when you learn to acknowledge these things, you will find your purpose for existence and strive to move forward in life.
So remember this…
When times are tough, you must be tougher. Don’t pray for an easy life; pray for the strength to endure a tough one that leads to greatness.