Meaningful connections with friends, family and loved ones can lead to a happier, longer life. If you’ve been in relationships that did not last or if you are having trouble finding someone you want to pursue a long-term relationship with, the idea of having a long and happy relationship may seem impossible to achieve. Fortunately, there are steps you can take to improve the quality and duration of your relationship.
Tips for Healthy Relationships With Friends and Family
1. Always be real
Being your own true self is important in any relationship. You wouldn’t want your loved ones pretending to be someone they’re not, well they wouldn’t want you to do the same either. People will love you for who you are, if you are true to yourself. Accepting who you are will also help others around you to do the same. So don’t ever hide your true self, its the best version of you. We’re all unique and different, with our quirky habits and distinct ways.
2. Trust him/her
Trust your friends and partners immensely. Even a sliver of doubt can be infectious to your relationships. The person that you’re so close to and love so dearly loves you too. Trust them to do right by you. In most cases, we doubt people without any facts backing our doubt. Give your loved ones the benefit of doubt. Discussions with them will help you feel more secure as you will know what they are thinking. All the decisions we make are due to some reasoning that favored our decision and we should trust that our loved ones had their reasons too, for any decision they might have made.
Communication is key. It is one of the most important qualities a healthy relationship. However, not everyone knows how to communicate properly … or even communicate at all. Happy and healthy couples have this game down. They vocalize their love for one another, saying “I love you” often and offering compliments. They also discuss the bad instead of sweeping issues under the rug. In order to move forward and grow, you two need to be able to truly talk about your feelings. No matter how awkward or uncomfortable it feels, it will make for a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship.
4. Defend and protect
Standing up for the ones we love is instinct. Its a built in value that we cannot erase. But sometimes we need a gentle reminder to protect our people from any harm, physical or emotional. We love when people stand up for our honour, well its important to do that for others too! Making people feel protected and loved is the best way to let them know that you care and that you’re in the relationship for the long haul. Don’t hold back on your protective instincts, let them know you’re their own personal bodyguard. Nobody gets to them unless they get through you first.
5. Give space to them
All good things have time and intensity constraints, so do relationships. Keeping the right balance between your personal time and friend/family time is essential. It is important to give people the necessary amount of alone time that they need. An overdose of your affection or presence will not help either one of you. Those in-depth times when you’re sipping on coffee and thinking about life, are the times you need to be alone with your thoughts. Give people their thinking time. Chances are they’ll just miss you more when you’re not around!
6. Don’t Forget the Small Things
Saying please and thank you shouldn’t be reserved for the company. Manners are important – even with the person you’ve been with for 20 years. Extend the same respect to your spouse as you would to a visiting guest. Say please and thank you, make polite conversation and why not offer your partner a drink? A few manners and niceties will go a long way to maintaining a culture of mutual respect.
7. Eat together
Families that eat together, stay together. Supper table is a place for couples and their family members to connect and to receive nourishment – both physical and spiritual. Eating healthy food together at a table will not only encourage good family nutrition but provides a regular, sacred space for conversation and laughter.
8. Do fun things
Most people get stuck in a rut after having known each other for long. Its only natural to have a routine and particular things you like doing together. But it is also important to remember that change is good. Its good to try new things together like taking dance classes, joining a book club, going to the gym together, trying adventure sports or even visits to places you don’t usually go to. Before you get bored with a certain activity, make sure to discuss other fun things you could do together.
9. Make & relive memories
The memories you make of the time you spend with your loved ones are always cherished. Its important to communicate with them and spend quality time together in order to make such memories. Family and friends should always be on the top of your priority list. If you make someone your priority, you end up making more time for them. Make sure you have your group of friends or extended family together, at least once a year to make and relive beautiful memories.
10. Go On Vacation
Holidays are essential parts of all of our lives. We need time off our busy schedules to take a break and not have so much on our minds. And these holidays are more special if they are well planned and meaningful with the right people in the right state of mind. If there are some tense times that you are facing with your loved ones, make sure you take some time off and plan a vacation.